An acronym is an abbreviation formed from the initial letters of a multi-word phrase. For example, we might use the acronym “USA” instead of “United States of America.” We use acronyms all the time. Today, I want to start us off using the acronym “PDA.” PDA, many years ago, stood for Personal Digital Assistant, like the Palm Pilot. Those are no longer in use. PDA can also stand for Public Display of Affection, such as hugging, kissing, and holding hands in public. In some places, such affectionate displays are discouraged. One final use of PDA is a medical term. It is called Pathological Demand Avoidance, or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. This form of PDA is one in which a person is driven to avoid or resist any instruction they receive. We all probably had a touch of this form of PDA when we were two years old. Tell a two-year-old what to do, and their response is almost automatically “No.” Most people outgrow this form of PDA as they mature and find that some instructions are quite useful. “Don’t touch that stove, it’s hot!” can become a very useful instruction to follow.
I wanted to focus on PDA, Pathological Demand Avoidance, because it seems as though, spiritually, we humans have a touch of a two-year-old in us when it comes to instructions and imperatives from God. In Genesis 2, we would read, “15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, ‘You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die’” (Genesis 2:15-17). Well, I think we know that imperative to leave the fruit alone did not stand the test for very long before the man and woman avoided God’s instruction. There are many such examples in the Bible, including Jesus healing people and telling them not to tell anyone who healed them. In every case, the people ran and told others that Jesus healed them. So, we can be spiritual toddlers having a touch of PDA or Pathological Demand Avoidance when it comes to Biblical instruction.
Knowing this is important because Peter’s letter to the Christians in Asia Minor has a sequence of imperatives or instructions. The heart of Peter’s letter had four imperatives.
- Prepare your minds for action (1:13)
- Be holy in all your conduct (1:15)
- Conduct yourselves with fear (1:17)
- Love one another (1:22)
Over the past couple of weeks, we have looked at the first two imperatives: preparing our minds for action by setting our hope fully on the grace of God, and being holy in all our conduct. As we have looked at Peter’s words concerning those imperatives, we can easily imagine many behaviors we could engage in that avoid preparing our minds and acting in ways that are not holy. We avoid demands because we want to set our own course or to show others that we have autonomy.
And for today, I want us to look at Peter’s third imperative, “conduct yourselves with fear” (1 Peter 1:17). Now in one sense, Peter’s instruction to these Christians from Asia Minor to conduct themselves fearfully was unnecessary. These Christians were exiles who had no rights because of their faith and were being subjected to persecution. They would naturally be concerned and fearful about their physical safety. Therefore, the imperative “conduct yourselves with fear” must have a different context. To see that context, let’s look at the full verse. Peter said this, “17And if you call on him [God] as Father who judges impartially according to each one’s deeds, conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile, 18knowing that you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, 19but with the precious blook of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot” (1 Peter 1:17-19). We now see Peter’s imperative was to conduct yourselves with fear toward God the Father who serves as Judge. The Greek word for fear is phobos, which, in this context, refers to respect and reverence for someone in a position of authority or rank, or who is very dignified. Conduct yourselves with fear, great reverence and respect for God, the Father, who arranged your ransom, not with silver or gold, but with the blood of his own son, Jesus. Peter used the same term, phobos, in Chapter 2, verse 18, when he wrote most simply, “Servants, be subject to your masters with all fear (respect).” He did so again in Chapter 3, verse 2 when describing Christian women’s behavior toward their husbands as “respectful and pure conduct” (1 Peter 3:2). Finally, Peter used phobos in Chapter 3, verse 15 when he said, “15 Always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and (phobos) fear (respect)” (1 Peter 3:15).
Using imperative language, Peter told Christians to have a measurable and evident phobos, a fear (respect and reverence) of God for two simple reasons. First, God is the Judge of all, both the just and the unjust. It is never to anyone’s advantage to be disrespectful to a judge of any sort. Not only is God a judge, but God is the Judge over all creation. There is no appeal from God’s judgment. So, having respect and reverence for God, the ultimate judge, is wise. Second, God the Judge of all, Peter said, had established a single process for people to be found innocent before Him. Peter wrote, “3Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead” (1 Peter 1:3). God said that belief in Jesus Christ means you will be born again into a new spiritual identity and thus freed from the sins of your former identity that would require conviction. We might think of it as appearing before God the Judge with Jesus as our defense attorney only to hear God say, “If Jesus is your defender, then a trial is unnecessary because I find you “Not Guilty’.” This was all due to God’s mercy, an undeserved pardon granted to us because of the work done by Christ upon the cross and our accepted of Jesus as Savior. Peter’s imperative was “conduct yourselves with fear (respect and reverence) before God because He has granted you mercy.”
Peter explained the significance of God’s mercy by recounting the story of Noah. Peter said, “18For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive in the spirit, 19in which he went and proclaimed to the spirits in prison, 20because they formerly did not obey, when God’s patience waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was being prepared, in which a few, that is, eight persons, were brought safely through the waters” (1 Peter 3:18-20). The message here was stark and severe. Sin would be dealt with. The story of Noah was that when God vowed to wipe away sin, only eight people were spared by God’s mercy. As such, Christians ought to fear, respect, and revere God's power.
Peter’s chose imperatives to speak to this group of Christians. Prepare your mind for action (1:13), be holy in all your conduct (1:15), and conduct yourselves with fear (1:17). Those hearing Peter had a choice. Do as Peter demanded or show their own autonomy and avoid Peter’s commands. We cannot say what every Christian who heard Peter’s letter did in response, but we do know that early Christians in Asia Minor were persecuted for their faithfulness to God through Jesus Christ.
One Christian in particular, a man named Polycarp, exemplifies Peter's command in his letter. Polycarp was part of the church in Smyrna, one of the seven churches cited in Revelation. Smyrna is in modern-day Turkey, the very area Peter was considering in his letter. Around the year 160 AD, Polycarp, a church leader, was arrested for refusing to worship the emperor. He was sentenced to death. Just before his death, Polycarp said this, "Eighty and six years I have served Him, and He has done me no wrong. How then can I blaspheme my King and Savior? You threaten me with a fire that burns for a season, and after a little while is quenched; but you are ignorant of the fire of everlasting punishment that is prepared for the wicked." Polycarp was burned at the stake and pierced with a spear for refusing to burn incense to the Roman emperor. On his farewell, he said: "I bless you, Father, for judging me worthy of this hour, so that in the company of the martyrs I may share the cup of Christ.” Polycarp understood that he would appear before God in judgment and therefore desired to approach the throne of God, the seat of Judgment, in a fearful way, showing great respect and reverence.
Today, in the modern church, people do not like to hear words such as "judgment" and "fear". They are uncomfortable with such language because they do not think fear is the proper motivation to follow Jesus. They believe we should instead emphasize only that Jesus is a good example to follow. There is, of course, nothing wrong with encouraging people to follow the example of Jesus. I do that all the time. But saying “Follow Jesus” is an incomplete thought. Jesus is a good example to follow, and He loves us, but He is, first and foremost, our Savior. There is no Savior needed for our lives if we live without fear or judgment. If you approach someone on the street and say, "Jesus loves you, and he is a good example to follow; call Him 'Your Savior and you will be born again,” it is not exactly clear what Jesus would be saving them from. There is no imperative calling people to act urgently. Now ask a person drowning in a lake if they would like help; they would understand the need for someone to save them urgently. Suggesting to them that they would be in a better position if they followed Michael Phelps's example in swimming would not do much for them in that moment. Fear and judgment are essential parts of the Christian witness and experience, and we should not avoid conversation about them. The thief on the cross understood this principle. The thief professed his belief in Jesus and asked Jesus to remember him. Jesus told the thief that they would be together in paradise, heaven itself the dwelling place of God. The thief understood God’s judgment was coming upon him, and he saw Jesus as his Savior, not a lifestyle example to follow.
Perhaps you do not believe me. Maybe listening to Jesus would help. Jesus said, “28And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell” (Matthew 10:28). Read simply, “Fear God,” for He has the power over all life, mortal and eternal. Jesus told this same truth in a parable we now call the “Parable of the Wicked Servant.” Jesus said a king said the time has come to settle accounts—judgment time. One servant owed the king 10,000 bags of gold, a sum that could never be repaid. The king ordered everything the man owned, including his family, to be sold. The servant, fearing the king’s judgment, begged the king for more time. The king knew more time would not change the situation. Instead, the king forgave the servant's debt and set him free. This is mercy granted by a savior. Jesus said this same servant then found a man who owed him a small amount of money. Instead of forgiving the man his small debt, the servant sent the man to prison. Upon hearing this news, the king found that wicked servant, reinstated his massive, unpayable debt, and sent him to be tortured until the debt was paid. The servant who had feared the king’s judgment did not fear the king. The servant did not see and treat the king as his savior, so the reprieve from judgment was only temporary, and now, because he did not conduct himself with fear, the judgment became permanent. Jesus said, “Fear the Lord your God.”
Many Christians have a Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) toward fearing God. Why is that? It stems from two ideas. First, as we have already spoken about, too many people think of Jesus as primarily their friend, not foremost their Savior. Secondly, too many people are focused on what they do and what they have accomplished, rather than on what God has accomplished. This is the selfie thinking. You see this all the time on social media – people take photos of the self in front of the canyon, rather than the canyon. Our society has lost sight of the canyon because we are too self-absorbed. That self-absorption leads to ignorance about God. And so, many Christians pathologically avoid the demand to fear God because it would conflict with their sense of autonomy.
Proverbs 9:10 said quite memorably, “10The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding” (Proverbs 9:10). Fear of God is necessary for us to understand the salvation God has granted us in His mercy through the blood of His own Son, Jesus. Fear that genuinely evidences itself in respect and reverence should result in a change in our conduct towards God and towards one another. For this reason, Peter instructed the exiles, “Conduct yourself with fear.” Peter’s words were and remain a call to Christians to get and keep their priorities straight. This is essentially the message from the Old Testament, Ecclesiastes, Chapter 5, verse 2, “2Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few” (Ecclesiastes 5:2). I think Peter summed this thought up well when he said, “Conduct yourself with fear.” Let us not avoid the imperative to properly and fully give respect and reverence to God through Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen and Amen.